etcp: replace connections linked-list with indexed ll_queue, add state/ref_count lifecycle
- Remove ETCP_CONN.next linked-list, UTUN_INSTANCE.connections list/count
- Unified connections in single ll_queue indexed by peer_node_id (0=pending)
- struct conn_queue_entry { peer_node_id, conn* } for uniform queue data
- Connection lifecycle via etcp.c: create→pending, conn_ready→indexed, close→detach+deferred free
- Close split: phase1 detach from external world, phase2 deferred via uasync_call_soon
- etcp_conn_set_peer_node_id: reindex on ID change (WARN)
- etcp_conn_ref_take/free: blocking close until refcount returns to 0
- Remove chat_connections — use unified connections queue directly
- Update all iteration/search patterns across 40 files (src + tests + chatgui)
Evgeny
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