stcp: ed25519 pubkey exchange in handshake, fix instance destroy segfault, fix chat_tcp_test

- u_async.c: process immediate_queue BEFORE epoll_wait in uasync_poll
- stcp_link.c: defensive NULL etcp_conn/etcp_link in stcp_link_close
- utun_instance.c: move stcp_server_list_destroy_all to Phase J (before ETCP),
  add deferred drain in both Phase J and L
- stcp.h/c: STCP_HS_ENC_CLIENT 6→38, STCP_HS_ENC_SERVER 7→39,
  exchange ed25519_pubkey in both handshake directions
- etcp_connections.c: copy peer_ed25519 from STCP to ETCP_CONN in
  etcp_link_enter_ready_tcp; guard link->etcp in tcp_link_close_cb
- chat_sync.c: fix lk->conn NULL dereference for TCP links
- test_stcp.c: update stcp_server_create/stcp_client_connect callsites
- tools/chat_tcp_test: change transport udp→tcp

tools/proxy/proxy.sh

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+#!/bin/bash
+./udp_proxy --listen 192.168.29.117:1266 --target 192.168.29.117:1333